Sunday, December 26, 2010

Teena Marie & Venice High

It was 1981, my first year in high school (ayy, so long ago) when I was introduced to Teena Marie. The song was "Square Biz." As we would say back in the day, "that was my jam!"

Growing up in a strict Latino home who also happened to be 7th Day Adventist didn't leave a lot of going to parties and football games. It did leave me in my room listening to the radio. While the music played behind closed doors, I danced, I let the music take me away and Teena Marie's "Square Biz" was one of them (including Gap Band, Lakeside and other R&B groups).

The other fact on Teena Marie that we took pride in was that she was an alumni of Venice High School. We walked the halls that she walked. Did she sing in the bathrooms? Did she also have some of these same teachers? Did she kick it on the front lawn like we did?

Thank you Teena Marie for blessing the Universe with your music, your voice. You will not be forgotten.

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Count Your Blessings..."O Veras...."

As I sit here contemplating the midnight sale at Toys R Us tonight because yours truly is "La Reina de Procrastinationlandia," I can't help but ask myself AGAIN, "Why oh Why Guadalupe (because you know its serious when I call myself by my middle name) do you wait until the last minute to go shopping? The answer varies...
1. Financial: I need to wait all the bills are paid and see what I have to spend. That's part of it.
2. No clue for gifts: I asked spouses for ideas and they didn't know. I asked siblings for ideas, "tampoco."
3. I would like the gift to have some sort of special meaning to myself and to them. Wow! What pressure I put on myself. I know! I really don't like giving gift cards because it is so easy but I should learn to embrace easy and go with the flow.

But beyond this gift giving...I realize what they bring into my life. Blessings. Blessings of family, Blessings of friendship. An acknowledgement that I am not alone in this world.

The holiday season began with a get together at the De La Garza home. Tamales and desserts. What more could you want? I saw friends I had not seen in a long time and it was great catching up on each other's lives. Next up....Sushi night!

I gave four massages this week. Nothing wrong with some extra money. Maria Felix eyebrows, here I come!

Maite had play dates twice this week with Oscar and Cayla. Her social calendar is so much busier than mine.

Today was a special day for so many reasons. It began with my neice Luna coming over today and she was in a huggable mood and gave everyone kisses before leaving for Atlanta with her father.

My friend Mary, whom I lovingly call "la pinche chota" brought me tamales dulces and some pan dulce for the kids. I haven't decided if I will tell Chuy that the tamales are in the refrigerator.

We spent the evening catching up with my compadre Tino and his family. The girls made bunuelos and cookies with Nicki-bird and Andivi. Through Tino, I have become friends with La Ashley and Rocky and today I met Nathan. Mucho gusto Nathan. I got to see the Baca family and spend some quality time with Raquel and Ralph. This day was so much more special because they always make bunuelos on the 23rd of December. It is my comadre Ludim's birthday (which I facebooked that she is in the heavens serving cake to angels and welcoming new souls into the "cielo").

This is the true spirit of Christmas. The lasting friendships that touch your life. But I want to make sure that all these people know how much I LOVE them and am BLESSED by them. With this said, I need to get my Happy New Year cards out and the gifts that are a token of my love for them. So when I hit the mall tomorrow, it's this feeling I will keep in my heart as I play tug of war with a stranger for the sweater on sale!

Feliz Navidad to anyone reading this. Actually Feliz Navidad to the Universe! Peace & Blessings for everyone in 2011. Namaste!

Friday, December 17, 2010

What do you leave to this earth?


I was recently with my daughter at Pavillion's. She was with her Girl Scout troop asking customers to purchase non-perishable food to help feed homeless and families in need. A couple of parents and myself would stand off to the side as they approached people coming into the store.

These were the typical responses:
1. They would stop and have a quick conversation with the girls, take the flyer and return to the table with some cans or other supplies. Que bonito.

2. They would respectfully respond with "No thank you. I can't today." Again, que bonito that they were polite.

3. They would keep walking never acknowledging that a young girl was speaking to them. Seriously?! It was a good thing that I was not in "La Gata" mode. Dang, wanted to pull out the power of the chancla and beat some sense into some people. The funniest one was of a person looking at the kids like they were aliens, then turned to look at his companion looking for some guidance of "what do I do?" while she continued to walk never acknowledging anyone was talking to them. Again! Que la chintola!

I stood there and watched these young girls not get defeated by group 3 folks and continue on with their mission. I know it is the holidays and every non-profit you can think of is parked in front of the market, mall and other public place. I am not telling you to give to everyone but be a "human" and respond with a "no thank you" or "yes, here you go." Manners go a long way.

Remember, Peace on Earth. Keep it positive and spread the good energy.

Where have I been?


Ay, ay, ay Chihuahua...where have I been and why have I not been blogging? One of my last posts had to do with my abuelita's death and that put me in a black hole. I didn't volunteer at school, I wasn't volunteering in Girl Scouts and I was living day to day trying to get through my class.

As some of you may know, I am in school (IBSP) studying to become a massage therapist. I am in the middle of taking a human energy class which deals with the energy that travels through our body. You know you have it people, because how many times have you given yourself a "toque" (and I don't mean the mind enhancing toque, sin verguenzas) walking across that carpet?

Well this class did an instruction of how our energy/power is taken away from us when we talk bad about ourselves. When we self-criticize we take our strength away. I am guilty of it. I tend to knock myself down with humor (i.e. girl, you know my big butt can't fit in skinny jeans). Our instructor Tracy showed us what happens. We stood up with one arm out to the side. Our goal was to not let the other person push your arm down. The second step dealt with a self-criticism. My sentence: I didn't see myself worthy to put myself on my own priority list. Needless to say, everyone's needs (husband, kids, family) came first. This is why I am still trying to go see Diane so she can wax my brows back to a "Maria Felix shape" and get rid of the "Cantinflas bigotes."
What happened when I repeated this sentence as my fellow classmate pushed down on my arm? She pushed it down. Que triste. The third step was to come up with a mantra to repeat to myself for one week. It is "I will put myself as priority so I can be the best that I can be." How is it working? Not bad. I still haven't made the appointment with Diane but it's financial not time-wise. I feel better and I do make some time for myself everyday (drink coffee work on sudoku, sit on the couch and watch the kids play instead of cleaning)
Another lesson, instead of being angry and thinking of 101 ways you can torture the person who pissed you off, think and say "_____ (fill in name): I am sorry. Thank you and I love you." It really works.

There have been some obstacles this week and I look at it as a shift, a transformation into something better. It's like the juicy catepillar from "Bugs". I will become a beautiful butterfly. I continue to ask for Divine Guidance and must be open to listen and to the changes that it brings.

With this said, I truly do wish to blog more often and always on a positive tip (even when I am venting).

To the mothers reading this: You are number one on your priority list. You are beautiful and you are mama (one of the hardest jobs on this planet).